At the end of “Manhattan,” the celebrated movie romance from 1979, a teenager played by Mariel Hemingway delivers some good news to the 42-year-old television writer, portrayed by Woody Allen, with whom she has had a long-running sexual affair.
“Guess what, I turned 18 the other day,” said Ms. Hemingway, in what was framed as a poignant encounter. “I’m legal, but I’m still a kid.”
That was then.
That was also a fictional depiction of a consensual relationship. Here in real life, Polanski was charged with giving alcohol and drugs to a 13-year-old and then raping her as she repeatedly said no.
From a link in rm’s journal, “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced”:
If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem....So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.
And on a lighter note, from a link in Neil Gaiman’s blog, “5 Comic Book Halloween Costumes That Won't Objectify Women (And 5 That Will Objectify Men!)”. I particularly liked She-Hulk, Attorney-at-Law:
But the green skin and hair with the power suit all combine to create an appearance that says "I'm smart, I'm capable, and the first person to make an inappropriate comment about wanting a look at my 'legal briefs' is getting punched through the nearest brick wall."
True story: last year in a Ricky’s Halloween I saw his and her Ghostbusters costumes. His was the canonical beige jumpsuit; hers was a mini-dress with cleavage halfway to the navel. Keep in mind that in the cartoon tie-ins, the receptionist, Janine, periodically strapped on a proton pack over a jumpsuit. Granted, it was a pink jumpsuit, but still.
Okay, time to start dressing for Shanghai Mermaid.